Reddit, Solved: Are Primary and Secondary useful concepts?

SiLioceo asks what we've all been thinking:

"I've always felt a bit uncomfortable about them, and feel like the distinction is perhaps just the shadow of monogamy creeping back into the poly concept. What do you guys think about the primary / secondary distinction? Is it useful? Does it lead to more ideological problems than it it's worth? Does it cause you to treat people differently in a way that isn't really helpful or healthy? How do expectations between primaries and secondaries differ?"

You're not wrong, SiLioceo, monogamy is a creeping, pervasive force that must be stomped out, its vocabulary purged, and its practitioners re-educated.  Ideological problems don't occur among those who are ideologically pure.  Just asking this makes us question your commitment to the poly state.  Oh sure, we've heard you denouncing rules as tools of the decadent monogamists, but you will need to do more than that to demonstrate your loyalty. 

Oh, is that a copy of Opening Up on your book shelf?  Funny, it looks awfully new.  My copy's a mess, of course.  That comes from reading it and bookmarking the best parts.  I can quote whole chapters, but then I'm sure you can too, am I right, comrade?  This brings to mind a quote by Tristan Taormino.  In her critique of Hegelian philosophy,she said, "Monogamy is a circle from which no one can escape.  Its hierarchy is a hierarchy of knowledge".  I come back to that often when confronted with your type.  You question and question.  Re-education hasn't worked.  We sent you for a week at a mini-con, yet again you sit here, an unrepentant recidivist.

For your questioning it is best if you were exiled to the NoFap subreddit, consigned to spend your days reading about people getting endlessly wanky about not wanking. Don't think of this of this as punishment.  The poly state does not punish; it doles out relationships and reddit threads to each based on need, not merit.  That is why the creepy couple just getting into poly finds a hot 22 year old unicorn after a month and you will spend New Years reading NoFap threads to your cat.

Stop crying.  Poly is not all about the tears, comrade.